As a person I like keeping busy, having things to do, I feel useful when I have a "to do list" in front of me. More now than ever.....I want to get busy really really busy, I don't want to have one idle neuron in my head to think about things around me...
- The constant bickering with people who are important to me and the bitter aftertaste it leaves in my mouth.
- My mother's disappointment with my selection of the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. Or everything she'd doing to show me that.
- I am beginning to feel the absence of my only confidante in my house....miss him like crazy.
So now after yet another argument I begin to make notes on what I must remember when I have a kid of my own...and then I thought y not spread the word n put it up on my blog.
So here goes.....
1.) Try not to rush to help them when they fall and scrape their knees. They must learn the value of rising up, dusting themselves and moving on. In the real world no one will rush to them with open arms, they will have to wipe their own tears.
2.) Thrashing a kid is what parents do when they cannot come up with creative and more effective ways to discipline a kid. Remember this before you slap your kid for dropping and breaking a bottle of expensive perfume or tearing up a book to make paper boats or writing on the wall.
3.) There is no need to constantly remind them about the things you do for them or the sacrifices you make. Trust me...they will value it more when they realize it on their own.
4.) Everything you say or do is being watched and recorded....yes life with a kid around will be like a 24hr BIG BOSS. Every action (right or wrong), every word (hurtful or encouraging) will be etched in their memory forever. So be cautious, the world might not know but your world will know.
5.) Please make your life as perfect as you possibly can, do not compromise on any aspect of it, no second best B-school or almost perfect groom/bride or good role but shitty salary or vice-versa. Please oh please live your dreams yourself and if you can't....forget them. Do not try and live your dreams through your children. They are already carrying the burden of their own dreams and expectations.
6.) AND IF YOU DON'T HAVE A PERFECT LIFE....DON'T WISH YOUR CHILDREN DO!!!! By telling them their life could be much better you will ruin their present happiness as well.
7.) The only person who can learn from your mistakes is YOU, don't expect your children to learn from them and not make mistakes....life doesn't teach lessons that way.
8.) If Mr. X's son is studying at IIT/IIM/Harvard, your son need not do the same. Mr. X's son also smokes pot, a habit he formed at IIT/IIM/Harvard, do you want your son to do the same. Mr. X's son will not love you as much as your son does....he doesn't care about what you think of him....your son does. Please make sure you give him the right idea.
9.) Above all please remember that bringing a child into this world means sacrificing the next 20-25yrs of life to nurture another life. You cannot turn back or quit halfway, so please get into it only if you are genuinely up for it.
